So here we are: gay sex 101.
What or who is a Bottom in terms of gay sex?
Well, it could mean a variety of things to a variety of people, but generally, the “bottom” is the guy who is the receptive partner in anal sex. Although it could be a label for someone who is more sub with in sex.
So the guy who’s underneath (or on top if you’re doing the cowboy) is known as the “bottom”. The giver is known as the “Top”. Not everybody likes the terms “top” or “bottom” for some being a bottom is seen as less than, more subservient or more effeminate, but some, like Big Brother US star Ragan Fox have empowered the word and meaning by calling themselves, “power bottoms”.
More recently, when Nurse Jackie star, Haaz Sleiman came out as gay he totally owned the bottom thing saying, “Not only am I a bottom, but I’m also a total bottom, which means I like it up you-know-where.”
Other wise you could go with giver and givee, catcher and pitcher or just their names… (no labels!)
Apparently, there’s quite a bit of stigma attached to being a bottom. A survey found sixty per cent of readers thought that there was or weren’t sure if there was a stigma attached to bottoming or being the receiving partner during penetrative sex. Only 40 per cent said no there wasn’t a stigma.
Only 40 per cent said no there wasn’t a stigma.
What is a Power Bottom?
Power Bottoms are those who dominate in sex but are those who enjoy receiving anal sex – or someone who can power through and take the *D* for a long time.
Those who like being both a top and the bottom are usually referred to as “vers” which means versatile. The terms tops, bottoms and vers have been around for a long time, but have become increasingly popular since the dawn of internet dating and apps.
Guys who like to bottom are usually great at keeping things clean and hygienic down there. Want to know more? You can read our tips on what to eat if you’re planning to bottom tonight or how to prep yourself like a porn star!
What are bottom myths?
Bottoms aren’t (necessarily)
Effeminate
Slutty
They want it all the time
Don’t feel the pain
Totally sub
So there you have it – got tips or something to add? Use the comment section below…
